OurFamilyWizard’s exclusive tool, ToneMeter, helps co-parents communicate with less conflict and more civility.
Tonemeter
Communicate calmly—without stirring up conflict
OurFamilyWizard’s exclusive tool, ToneMeter, helps you spot language that could escalate conflict—so you can change it and sound civil.
NEW: ToneMeter AI makes communication easier by suggesting calm, neutral versions of emotional messages.
Reshape your communication
Communication sets the tone for your co-parenting relationship. ToneMeter points out when your message might sound confrontational. Then, ToneMeter AI will suggest a neutral alternative that still gets the point across.
ToneMeter helps you notice your own communication style—and then adjust the tone (if you want to) without changing the meaning. Regardless of what your co-parent does or says, reducing negativity in communication can lower your stress.
Using ToneMeter can help support you during a difficult, emotional time.
When one co-parent feels upset while communicating, the other parent often responds in the same way or even escalates the situation. Quickly, the conversation turns into an argument. With ToneMeter AI’s help, you can completely avoid that original trigger.
Keep the attention on taking care of the kids, not how you feel about each other.
Over time, you’ll get used to communicating with your co-parent civilly and productively. This new way of writing might become a habit. It will feel comfortable, because it’s so fast and easy with ToneMeter AI’s guidance.
You can escape the gloom, feel less helpless, and even set the overall tone for your communication.
Co-parenting communication is easier with ToneMeter AI
With ToneMeter AI, you can truly improve your communication. It offers suggestions for turning an emotional draft into a calm, clear message. As a result:
- Writing takes less emotional energy.
- Messages take less time.
- Communication feels less stressful.
- You're less likely to escalate conflict.
When you keep your side of the street clean, then attorneys, mediators, therapists, and judges will notice that you’re communicating politely and productively—which can help in a custody disagreement.
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Language in context
Tone analysis doesn’t just flag swear words—it analyzes your language in context to understand what impression it will make.
Private feedback
The tone analysis and rewrite suggestions are only for you. There’s no option to create a report for this feature. It’s entirely up to you if you incorporate the suggested rewrites into your message.
Always optional
If the tone analysis flags negative language, you don’t have to change it. If the message suggestions offer a rewrite and you don’t like it, you don’t have to use it—you can edit it or ignore it.
Only on OurFamilyWizard
OurFamilyWizard is the only co-parenting platform that has such an advanced tool for co-parenting communication. Our exclusive ToneMeter AI can change the co-parenting experience from the ground up by transforming how you communicate.
Frequently asked questions
Have more questions? Contact Us. We’re happy to help.
How do I start using ToneMeter?
When composing a message, ToneMeter will appear to help identify and reflect on the emotional tone of your writing. It will alert you with red colored bars just below your message draft—tap the bars to see its response.
How do I start using ToneMeter AI?
ToneMeter AI is available to all customers for free for a limited time. To try it out, simply tap the sparkle icon in the Messages section. As you write, tap the ToneMeter bars to view AI-powered suggestions with more constructive phrasing.
How does this feature work?
ToneMeter uses a proprietary, advanced AI model that we developed specifically for co-parents like you, so it understands the nuances of co-parenting. As you write a message, it evaluates the emotional tone and offers reworded suggestions using generative AI designed to support more thoughtful, productive communication.
Does ToneMeter change what I write?
ToneMeter AI offers suggestions, but it’s up to you whether you use the rewritten messages or not. You can send the ToneMeter AI’s version of your message, edit it however you want, regenerate for another version, or dismiss it. See a step-by-step guide here.
How is my privacy protected with ToneMeter AI?
All ToneMeter AI processing happens on our secure self-hosted infrastructure. Messages are not shared, sold, or sent to third- party AI providers. Our self-hosted models ensure complete control over data privacy. Learn more in our privacy policy.
ToneMeter AI was built for co-parents
ToneMeter AI is different from general AI tools. It was developed specifically for the co-parenting context, so it understands the nuances of this difficult experience more than a generic AI tool.
- Suggestions are specific to co-parenting solutions.
- The feature is completely secure and private.
- You’re in control: ToneMeter AI is always optional.
With 25 years of experience in supporting co-parents, we built a tool that understands co-parenting. We gathered real feedback from humans who helped train the model, so we could create a tool that’s not just smart but also supportive.
Now you can stop stressing over communication. Instead, feel confident and comfortable when you open Messages and start writing.
Are you ready to communicate calmly?
Get started today with OurFamilyWizard.