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What Makes A Divorce So Expensive?

Many factors can contribute to the total cost of a divorce, but there are ways to prevent over spending.Many people share the impression that getting divorced will come with an enormous price tag. While there are likely to be some costs involved, you don't necessarily have to break the bank to get a divorce. Much of what determines the price of a divorce is how those involved choose to handle the process. So if that's the case, what is it that can make a divorce so expensive? And what can you do to keep costs low? 

How A Divorce Can Become Expensive

Every divorce is different, but two issues that can make a divorce expensive are conflict and disagreement. When divorcing parties cannot reach agreements on their own, they may quickly assume that they must take their case to court without considering other options that could help them settle. Conflict doesn't help make a divorce any less expensive, either. Parties who regularly pick fights with each other and are more concerned about winning arguments may find themselves spending more money on lawyers fees just to continue fighting. Although it is wise to seek help from a divorce lawyer when dealing with a complicated legal issue or when you have important questions, lawyer fees can become expensive very quickly. Meetings, emails, and phone calls with your divorce lawyer can add up in cost. You'll probably end up paying even more if you take an issue back to court.

More than money, divorce can quickly cost a family on many other levels. Parenting conflict often comes with an emotional cost that even the kids pay. Experiencing their parents' conflict can be emotionally taxing on a child, and the consequences of this can be devastating. The longer a divorce is drawn out with lawyers, and in courtrooms, the more financially and emotionally expensive the whole ordeal becomes for the entire family. 

How To Avoid An Expensive Divorce

The truth is that divorce is hard, and each party involved wants to do the best they can to protect themselves and the things that they value. If the parties believe that they can stay peaceful but are having trouble finalizing some issues, mediation can be a great option. A mediator acts as a neutral third party to help divorcing parties discuss and reach agreements on all sorts of matters. Another great option is collaborative practice. In this option, both parties each have their own divorce lawyer, and all four individuals get together in meetings to discuss and settle on the terms of the divorce. If at any point is this process an agreement cannot be reached, it ends and the parties will go to court to settle. 

If divorcing parties can find a way to communicate clearly, they may have more success in settling disputes and reducing divorce costs for everyone involved. Using an application like the OurFamilyWizard® website can help co-parents improve communication and make it easier to handle parenting issues on their own. The application is comprised of several tools that allow parents to input the details of their parenting plan–including the parenting schedule, expense responsibility agreements, shared forms and files, and more–and maintain a shared log of communication in regards to everything related to raising their kids. If parents are working with someone such as a lawyer or mediator, they can each grant those individuals access to work with them directly through the website. Courts across the United States and Canada are ordering the use of the OurFamilyWizard® website, but you don't need a court order to get started. Many parents choose to use these tools to keep their information organized and well documented. Co-parents may quickly find that by using these tools, their chances of reaching agreements on their own improves which can mean significant savings on lawyers fees and court costs. 

What makes a divorce so expensive has a lot to do with conflict and disagreements. Frequent miscommunication doesn't help to lower costs, either. If you can handle your case using an alternative method to litigation, you're likely to find yourself saving some money. The emotional expense of a divorce can be lowered if both parents are dedicated to keeping the situation as peaceful as possible. The OurFamilyWizard® tools can help to support parents in their effort to keep the peace. Click here to sign up and shield your family from conflict.