Tips for Celebrating Mother's Day After Divorce

Mother giving piggy back ride to daughter

Mother’s Day is a special time for families to express how much love and appreciation they have for their mothers, but this day can also stir up mixed emotions if a family is dealing with a separation or divorce.   Planning for Mother’s Day after divorce can cause stress or tension between parents and other family members, yet this is a great day to show your kids that even if parents are not together, everyone acknowledges and respects Mom’s role in the family.  Here are some tips to help every family member to make celebrating Mother’s Day after divorce enjoyable for everyone:

  • Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are parent-specific holidays, so if possible, kids should be able to spend each holiday with the celebrated parent.  In the case of Mother’s Day, moms should look forward to a fun, stress-free day spent with their kids.  Parents should take a look at their shared parenting schedule over the Mother’s Day weekend to see if any adjustments needs to be addressed in order to make this happen.
  • In a situation where parents are out of convenient driving distance from each other, it’s possible that Mother’s Day for the kids may be spent away from Mom.  This simply means that a little extra effort should be made on the part of the kids and other parent.  Encourage your kids to call or video chat with Mom, and brainstorm gift ideas with kids so they can send Mom something to show their love and help make the day special for her.  
  • Celebrating Mother’s Day after divorce is a perfect opportunity for the other parent to show that they recognize and respect the relationship between Mom and kids.  Let your kids plan what they’d like to do for Mom on this day, and help them as much as possible in order to make their plans happen.  Besides showing your co-parent that you appreciate what they do for your family, this is a great opportunity to show your kids how despite your differences, you and your co-parent are still a team.   Set aside your frustrations for this day, if not for your co-parent, for your kids.
  • If your family had a routine for this holiday prior to divorce, you may not be able to make this year’s celebration turn out the same way.  Establish a new tradition: instead of a large family brunch, make it a small get together with just Mom and kids; or as an alternative to buying Mom flowers, spend the day with her in the garden getting it ready for summer.   Not only for Mom, make this day one that your kids will always remember.

Plan ahead for this Mother’s Day on your OurFamilyWizard Calendar.  Set up your holidays schedule to reflect your family’s plans for the upcoming weekend, and communicate with your co-parent about these plans through your Message Board.  Keeping your plans organized and recorded will help to make your Mother’s Day after divorce less stressful and more enjoyable for everyone.