After a divorce or separation, dealing with your ex-spouse can be difficult. Dealing with a harassing former partner can be very trying and emotionally draining. Changes in the family structure are often harder for one parent to deal with than the other, especially, if both parties don’t feel the same way about the separation. However, when children are involved it becomes incredibly important for parents to figure out their new relationship. Children learn how to handle confrontation from their parents; so setting a good example is essential.
Here are some brief tips and advice from experts to help stop the harassing ex, or to help your relationship with the ex to get past the harassment:
Speak with your ex and try to find out what is bothering them. Often times open dialogue can help you to address what is leading them to harass you. If you can identify a specific issue, you may be able to offer remedies to end the harassment.
If this is unsuccessful, you must explain to your ex that their harassing behaviors must end. Harassment often brings others into the fold, which is never helpful. For example, if the harassment is happening at the workplace, a nosey co-worker or superior may become involved which only makes the problem worse. Harassment can lead to poisoning of your relationship.
If the harassing behaviors don’t end, you must explain to your ex that you are prepared to go to the authorities. If they do not stop, you must follow through with your threat and get a restraining order. Ideally, talking with your ex can end harassment. It is always best to end things amicably. If you can agree to keep “business like”, mature communication, you will be able to have a much successful relationship with each other and your children.
Of course, these are just recommendations. You should always consult a legal professional before making any actions.
Tools like the OurFamilyWizard website can help to keep that business like relationship functioning. Often one of the causes for a parent to become harassing is a lack of involvement or information. The OurFamilyWizard website can help both parents to feel informed and involved. If the harassment continues on the website, you will have all of the documentation you need to return to court. It can be a difficult process to stop the harassing ex, but with the right tools is very possible.