What is the difference between an expensive divorce and one that is not? You
The big question is why do some divorces with kids drag on in court and ring up enormous legal bills? Why are some divorces with kids so expensive? Well, the answer is often more simple than you may think. Both parties involved have a great deal to do with the outcome of their case. Obviously, you cannot control the other parent, but you can control yourself. Your reaction or lack of reaction can greatly impact how your relationship develop under this new family system.
Like it or not, you and the other parent will need to maintain some level of interaction as you try to co-parent your child. There are always extreme cases where this may not be true, as with issues of domestic violence. But, for most families, creating an understanding and a tolerable relationship is something that will need to happen. The sooner that this can happen, the faster you and your children will be able to move forward. There are many resources that can help you move forward. Believe it or not, you have a lot of control over how the other parent reacts. Getting help from a counselor or therapist can help you better understand how YOU impact your shared relationship.
There are also many tools, like www.highconflict.net, which can help parents better understand your behaviors from the privacy of your own home. Using online co-parenting tools like the OurFamilyWizard website can make this transition even easier. By having well documented exchanges of information, schedules and expenses, you can avoid confusion and mistakes that can lead a family back to court. Simple mistakes can turn into costly blow-outs very quickly.
Let's face it, communication and information sharing is tough for families who live in the same house. It doesn't have to be impossible from separate homes. Your children only get one childhood, do your best to ensure that it is the best it can be.
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