Redefining Your Partnership Through Your Basic Parenting Plan
For many divorced couples, the thought of ending your intimate and romantic relationship in exchange for a cooperative co-parenting relationship can be very difficult to comprehend. Until recently, the only type of relationship that you’ve had has been an intimate one. Building a new relationship around your children and your responsibilities as parents is your new task. Redefining your partnership through your basic parenting plan is a good place to begin this process.
Transitioning from intimate relationship to partnership
Before even thinking about creating a parenting plan, the best way to get the wheels in motion is to establish some ground rules with your co-parent. It’s often best if the both of you try to set aside some time to meet in person and try to formulate a plan on how you will transition from an emotional relationship to a cooperative co-parenting partnership. Depending on the amount of tension and conflict that occurs between the two of you, it may not be wise to get together to discuss this. If you and your co-parent have had a high level of conflict after your divorce it may be helpful to consult a mediator in order to reduce this tension. The reason why you and your co-parent should try to establish this plan is because creating a parenting plan takes a lot of cooperation. Creating a parenting plan will be a much easier task to accomplish if the both of you have already established a working partnership as co-parents.
Strengthening the bond with your children
Many co-parents make the common mistake of getting caught up in so many of the personal and legal issues that are associated with divorce and child custody. Children often get neglected and pushed aside for a number of different reasons. It is extremely important for co-parents to understand that although their previous relationship with their co-parent has ended, their relationship with their children can never be broken. Your children will always need caring and loving parents.
For the sake of your children, it is important to reiterate the fact that redefining your partnership with your co-parent takes a lot of compromise. The both of you must work closely with one another in order to create the best environment for raising your children. These compromises can often be difficult to make, but it’s important to remember that these compromises are being made solely for the benefit of your children.
Essential elements to include in your basic parenting plan
Redefining your partnership through your basic parenting plan can be a simple task if you keep in mind these basic elements to include in your parenting plan.
- Define the legal and physical details of your custody agreement.
- Define an effective method of communication between your co-parent and also your children.
- Define a clear and easy-to-understand custody schedule.
- Seek out a professional mediator to assist in creating your parenting plan.
- Put the well-being of your children above all else.
The OurFamilyWizard website® has helped thousands of co-parents just like yourselves with implementing these basic elements. Our simple and easy-to-use tools for co-parents make the responsibilities of co-parenting extremely easy. For more information on how you and your children can benefit from these tools please visit our Divorced Parenting webpage.